Religious ways of dating
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
In this article I am going to call it “dating” and define it as “the process of finding a spouse.” I do not claim to be an expert: I realize that many varying opinions about dating float around Christian circles jumping over each other, getting mixed together, and consuming some people.
You wish it could happen soon but it completely freaks you out. Some people call this dating, other people call it courting — there are likely countless terms you could use for the process.
Avoid doing anything you will regret once you are married. In other words, do not focus on how you are being perceived, but instead focus on how you are making other people feel. Not only do they know more about life, dating, and men and women; but they know you pretty good, too.
One question you could ask yourself is “If I were married, would I mind my spouse knowing ‘that’ about me? Whether it is when, who, or how, honor what they think.
It will benefit all of your relationships, ministry, career, and potential marriage.
Do not be afraid if it does not work out, you have still fulfilled your purpose in dating. Just because it happened a certain way for your older siblings or friends does not mean it will be that way for you.
Feel free to interact with those of the opposite gender.
It is not inappropriate; talking to someone does not mean you have a “crush on them” nor does it mean they have one on you. You do not need to flirt in order to have fun with those of the other sex.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.
I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.